“Grief is like the ocean; it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim”

– Vicki Harrison

Losing someone you love is a painful experience; coping with the situation can be difficult. You might be feeling empty, hurt, lost, confused, frightened and as though you are drowning right now. Perhaps you are finding it hard to adjust to the changes your loved one’s death has brought to your life. Maybe you feel like a part of yourself has died too and you don’t know how to do this thing called life anymore. Please don’t give into panic or despair. You can recover and you can find your way through the darkness. You will never be the same, that’s for sure – but nor would you want to.

Perhaps your grief is associated with other common losses that we can experience in life; divorce, miscarriage/infertility/abortion, loss of a beloved pet, loss of your career, your hopes & dreams, loss of yours or a loved one’s functioning due to disease or a mental illness… human losses are many and varied and bring suffering and pain to our human existence.

Feeling numb, lonely, shattered, disorientated, angry, guilty, sad… these are all normal grief responses to significant losses. Grief, can impact your sense of self, your faith, your temperament and your sense of safety and reality. It can affect you physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. It can change your relationships and the way that you function. Sometimes grief can lead us into depression that can be difficult to get out of. You need someone safe to share your journey with during this challenging time.

“I have endured many losses in my life and walked alongside others as they too have navigated this unforgiving terrain of grief and loss. It’s so important to find safe people who give you full permission to grieve in the way you need to and who provide that sensitive and safe space for you to step into when you are at your most vulnerable.” (Narelle Williams)

Support during your Suffering

It’s not healthy to keep things bottled up and to deny or squash your pain, and yet it is important that you find healthy ways of processing your painful emotions. Sharing about your loss with someone who is sensitive and skilled in creating and holding a safe space for you can help support you in your pain and suffering. Not everyone knows how to support a grieving person; sometimes they say things with the best of intentions, but their words cut you to the core and leave you feeling angry, alone and isolated.

A grief counsellor can give you the support you need during these most vulnerable times in your life journey. Grieving is definitely hard work. To be supported well with your grief journey, you need to find someone who understands the world of grief. It is one of the most uncomfortable places to be living in. Narelle Williams is Bethesda’s Counsellor and Grief Recovery therapist. She has been providing compassionate and sensitive grief counselling services for over ten years and works with individuals, couples and families.

Narelle will provide you with a dignified and caring space where you can safely feel and release your pain, explore and process your losses, reach acceptance, find new strengths and meaning in life and learn to adjust so that you can continue to live your life with meaning and purpose.